Updated: Nov 10, 2021
To love myself is to always be myself.
Loving myself means…
Loving myself is to always be myself. Doing things I like to do.
I long for freedom, and we should try our damnedest when we find our true calling from deep within!
Society tells us many things: what is beauty, what is ugliness, what a girl/boy should look like, what is success, and what is failure.
But you must set aside these worldly standards if you are to love yourself. Learn to appreciate your unique existence. Find your inner voice and listen to it. Be carefree. The world does not revolve around you, but it doesn’t mean you need to revolve around it.
When you are able to be yourself, you’ll find like-minded people naturally gravitating towards you. On the other hand, when you try to fit in according to the standards of society, even if you become a part of the so-called mainstream, you’ll find yourself extremely lonely.
Not loving myself is...
When you become a prisoner of social constructs, you’ll never escape the addiction of comparing yourself with others. You’ll fixate on how others think of you and never see your own strengths. Feeling inadequate, you’ll never be satisfied with your physique, your looks, your social standing, the size of your bank account, your level of education, the amount of friends you have, your level of achievements, etc.
This mentality of “not enough” affects every aspect of life, whether it’s at work, romance, or making friends. You will continually force yourself to conform and seek others’ attention, appreciation and approval. In the end, you’re just becoming less and less like yourself.
The lifestyle of loving myself...
It was a boring afternoon in February 2020. I was watching Netfilx when I noticed my own reflection on the television - lounging on my couch with my belly hanging, double chin visible, nose picking, all the while with my hand in the snack bowl. I grabbed my phone to log on to Instagram and distinctly remember the video I saw of Kiko Mizuhara. That self-conscious feeling I had from seeing her super skinny arms and waist was so strong, and I thought “You are never going to look like that.” I immediately unfollowed. (She didn't do anything wrong to be fair, but that was the best way to relieve my immediate stress.)
I don’t know where I found the sudden motivation to leave that couch, but I took out my drawing tools and started to draw a super fat woman lying down confidently and freely. I found relief looking at her form and a sense of joy and comfort washed over me. That was the birth of Gigi Fong (“Gi Fong” means fat in Cantonese).
I have come into more contact with people in the entertainment industry in recent years, and being in front of the camera means they have to be super skinny. Even for someone like me who works behind the scenes, I get told from time to time that I should lose some weight or get my face done to look slimmer. I’ve even been called names by haters. It’s easy to imagine the amount of people in the industry who suffer from body image pressure. On a daily basis, I hear conversations of “You’ve gained a few pounds.”, “You’re looking worse for wear”, “How can you be in the company of others looking like that?”, “You’ve got to look this way or that way to be liked.” It makes me want to hide myself away the more I hear these comments.
The creation of Gigi Fong made me realise embracing what you are can be such a positive thing. To hell with the stigma society has placed on weight issues. In reality, we all want to like ourselves for what we are, so why not be yourself?
So through the drawings and musings of Gigi Fong in the past year, I published the picture book You Are Not Right 《你說不對》and also held a painting exhibition titled The World of Gigi Fong. I hope my work can inspire others to have the courage to be themselves and love themselves!
Exhibition: The World of Gigi Fong ／ Music by Gigi Fong
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